Need 2 Know: Talking to kids

DAYTON, OH (WDTN) - Nearly every parent has been faced with an uncomfortable question from their child at some point. Besides being somewhat embarrassing, your answer can make a big impact on your relationship with your child. Here's what you need to know about developing good communication with your kids.

Financial struggles, the devastation in Haiti, the sex scandal surrounding Tiger Woods. From magazines to t.v., kids are exposed to all kinds of unsettling events that often trigger a lot of questions. Becky Blanton, mother of four says she handles all those awkward situations the same way. "I am very open, to the point, straight up and tell them how it is." says Blanton.

Dr. Gregory Ramey, a pediatric psychologist and Vice President of outpatient services at Children's Medical Center says Becky's doing the right thing. Honesty is key when talking with your children. Ramey says , "Simple, clear, factual, reassuring."
"When you fudge in answering a child's question, you're telling them don't ever talk to me about this again in the future. So who would you rather your child talk to about sex? You or someone else? If the answer's you, don't fudge. You want to become an askable parent." To do that, you need to listen and ask questions.

And before providing answers, Ramey says make sure you understand exactly what your child wants to know. "Remember, your goal is to not just answer the question. Your goal is to really establish a connection between you and your child so they'll come back and ask again in the future."

That philosophy has worked for Becky and says it's just one reason she has strong relationships with her kids. "Just keep your kids safe. Make sure they know everything. Don't try to hide stuff from them. Just let them know how life is out there and just how hard it can be."

Check out the web link section of Need 2 Know for an upcoming seminar on effective communication with your children.